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It’s time to come up with a new dream!

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It’s time to come up with a new dream! – We all have dreams that we formulate over the course of our lives. They are things we would like to see happen, things we wake up each day for, and things we hope in. Maybe you wanted to graduate high school, get a college degree, get married, start a family, or own your own home or business. Today, maybe most of those dreams have been shatter by a life event.

Possibly you failed to get that education because life happened, or you haven’t found that person to start the family, or your home or business never came to fruition. Whatever your loss or lack of achievement, it’s time to start dreaming again and formulate your new dream.

I am convinced that great personal success and failure can both have the same affect; they can stall your life. That is, until you come up with a new dream.

The last decade has taught me how to dream again. Over a decade ago I went through a divorce. Divorce can have many affects but most noticeable, it causes some to lose the hope for a future or a dream. It did just that for me. I lost all will and drive for most things. I lost the hope that my children would have a normal life, the way God created it to be. I lost friends, family, and hope that God was real and that he cared. This event triggered the long spiral from the perceived greatness to realty.

It wasn’t until everything was stripped away and I was left with just me as my daily realty, that I was forced to evaluate and come up with a new dream. It is a lesson that is repeated over and over again in many of our lives.

Someday will never come! The future will never happen in the way you desire to it to happen, if you fail to have a dream. A dream is a twenty thousand foot view of what you see for yourself when you a taking your last breathe. It’s how you want things to turn out rather than allowing the world to make the choices for you. It’s being aware and present in each moment rather than being sidetracked by momentary pain or daily busyness.

The Run

I have learned to love running and do it every day. I am not normally winded, however, I have shin splints that are of epic proportions. About five minutes into any run my body goes through sheer pain as it gets used to the impact. This lasts for about 15 more minutes until finally at about 20 minutes, the pain starts to dissipate. At that point, I have a few minutes of pure joy and exhilaration from running. Shortly after that I can feel the cardio portion of the workout start to kick in. When I first started running, I would focus on the pain, which caused me to want to give up. I found for me, that if I just changed what I focused on, the pain wasn’t as noticeable. So I started to focus on the goal or my dream at hand.

The Dream

My dream is for great health and to be walking well into my 80’s. As I battle the daily pain I envision running over mountains, through valley’s, and beside beaches. I imagine my children and someday grandchildren walking beside me. I relish the minutes of clarity and exhilaration as I push past my simple pains. This is just one of over one hundred different dreams I operate within each day.

Dreams enable me to conquer the mountain of getting up for work and trudging through the things that cause daily pain. Let’s face it; we all go through things in this life that take us to the next level, if we allow it. Or, it can stall you in the same place without any growth. Your dream helps you to get past these things. It’s that unwavering belief that what you dream will happen.

God’s Will

On a side note, many Christians believe that if they dream it up, they can just get God to come along with it. You have to put things into their proper order. There are things that we can do like obeying God’s commands, treating our bodies correctly, etc. but they don’t negate God’s will in  a matter. Part of formulating your dream requires you to do your part while God does his.

When people do not accept divine guidance, they run wild. But whoever obeys the law is joyful. Proverbs 29:18(NLT)

Dream Stoppers

There are two things that stop your dreams; the failure to forgive, even when there have been things that are unforgivable; and pride.

Failure to forgive keeps you tied to the past not able to push past the walls of hope. Pride stops your ability to learn and grow because you become unteachable.

Dream Enablers

There are two things that make your dreams possible; thankfulness and trust.

Starting with thankful for where you are today is the keystone to entering into future reality. If you continue to be thankful; verbally and daily, you will see many good things come your way.

1 Thessalonians 5:18 reads “in everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”(NIV)

Thankfulness is not only a good reminder of what you already have, but it is ‘God’s will.’ If you are seeking God’s will in your life, you just found the doorway to it.


The only way to do your part with respect to seeing your dreams come to fruition is to trust and then jump.

“But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him. They will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit.” Jeremiah 17:7-8

God has a plan. If you are a Christian, you have probably heard that since you joined up. But what happens when you are in a season of failure? What happens when everything you put your hands to turns to dust? What then?  Many of us seek safety and security when we have seen too much failure. For me I just wanted to find a stable place to rest after a failed marriage. But rest turned into comfort, and comfort turned into the fear of moving and losing the comfy spot. Ultimately you miss out on a new dream.

New Dream

I recently saw this video of Steve Harvey talking about “jumping.” Just watch it.

Being comfortable or just existing also causes us to not live out our dream. It is passive in nature as everything has been provided for and generally you are content. We are created to jump, to go out past the limits and not allow the comfort to dictate the potential of experiencing greater dreams.

When you stop dreaming you stop living. Accept the past and move on to your new dream! It will be amazing!

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