Some days, singleness feels freeing. Other days, it feels like a battle. You love the independence but long for connection. You enjoy the quiet, but sometimes it feels too quiet. So—what is it, really? A gift? A struggle? A little of both?
If you're caught in the tension between enjoying your singleness and wanting more, you’re not alone. The Bible doesn’t ignore this tension—it speaks directly to it.
Paul Calls Singleness a Gift (And He Meant It)
In 1 Corinthians 7:7, Paul says, “I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.” He’s talking about being single. And yes, he calls it a gift.
That can feel confusing, especially when singleness hurts. But here's what Paul understood: singleness opens up space. Space for focus, for ministry, and for growth.
He wasn't saying it’s easy. He was saying it's valuable. And in a world that idolizes romance, that’s a truth we need to hear.
Gifts Don’t Always Feel Good Right Away
Let’s be real. Just because something is a gift doesn’t mean it feels like one. Think about discipline, pruning, or waiting—God calls those things good too.
Hebrews 12:11 says, “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest…”
Singleness might not feel like a gift in the moment. But what if it’s producing something deeper in you? Something you’ll carry into every other season of life—married or not.
Singleness Can Be a Struggle
The Bible never says singleness will be easy. Even Paul acknowledges in 1 Corinthians 7:28, “Those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.”
In other words, no path is trouble-free. Marriage brings its own struggles. Singleness does too.
It’s okay to admit that it’s hard. That you long for connection. That you're tired of walking into events solo or watching everyone else pair off. Those feelings don’t make you weak. They make you human.
Singleness Doesn’t Mean You’re Incomplete
One of the deepest lies the enemy whispers is that you’re somehow less than because you’re single. But Colossians 2:10 says, “In Christ you have been brought to fullness.”
You are not a half waiting for a whole. You’re not missing your better half. You are already whole in Christ.
A relationship may enhance your life, but it doesn't complete you. Only God can do that.
Embrace the Tension
Maybe the best way to live this out is to stop trying to define singleness as just one thing. It’s not only a gift. It’s not only a struggle. It can be both.
And that’s okay.
You can thank God for the freedom while still praying for connection. Also, You can enjoy the present and still hope for what’s ahead. You can grieve unmet expectations and still find joy in today.
Romans 12:12 says, “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.” That’s the posture of a heart fully alive in God—even in singleness.
Singleness might feel like a puzzle some days. But in God’s hands, every piece has purpose. Every season has value. Whether it feels like a gift or a struggle today—God is using it to shape you into who you're becoming.
Want to go deeper into how to walk this out with faith and honesty? Check out Single Man Walking Through Divorce, coming Fall 2025. It’s a raw, biblical look at finding your way through heartbreak, healing, and hope.
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