Every year as a single, Valentine’s Day was a dreaded highlight on social media – a parade of romantic posts that I wished I could respond to with a throw-up emoji to express my distaste. However, my perspective has shifted, not because I’ve found “the one” (lol), but through self-discovery and reflection.
With my wife Kara, we’ve pondered our single years and would like to share some insights that might resonate with those still searching for a special someone.
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Fix You
I used to think I was just fine, but my 17 years of singleness suggested otherwise. To be your healthiest self, focus on improving emotionally, physically, spiritually, and financially. It’s not about perfection but about being the best version of yourself, irrespective of your relationship status.
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Pray for the Right Fit
There were times I believed singleness was my destiny, only to realize I was mistaken. It’s crucial to seek not what you think you want but what truly fits your life. (Recommended reading: Prayer Challenge )
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Stay Positive
No matter your circumstances, focus on the positives and remain hopeful. No matter how challenging, every situation offers a learning opportunity and a glimmer of something to look forward to. You either win or learn.
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Celebrate Others
Celebrating others isn’t just an act of kindness; it’s empowering. It’s about recognizing and honoring the achievements of those around you, stepping outside yourself, and realizing our interconnectedness.
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Love Those Around You
Don’t miss the present by fixating on the future. Love those in your life now – it’s fulfilling and a practice for future relationships.
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Serve Others
Service shifts your perspective from self-centeredness to altruism. It’s a powerful tool for personal growth and satisfaction.
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Embrace the ‘Even If’
I reached a point where I accepted that even if I never found “my person,” I would still lead a happy and fulfilling life. This acceptance is liberating and allows you to live fully in the present.
Valentine’s Day, often synonymous with romantic love, can also be a day of self-love and reflection for singles. It’s a time to appreciate the love we have in our lives – friends, family, and even our love for ourselves. It’s a reminder that our worth and happiness are not tied to our relationship status but to a God who loved and knew us before the foundations of the world were laid (Ephesians 1:4). This Day can serve as a catalyst to celebrate our journey, embracing the challenges and joys of singleness. Let’s use this occasion to foster a deeper understanding of ourselves and the love we can give and receive. Valentine’s Day is not solely about romantic couples; it celebrates love, mirroring how God’s love for us precedes all else (1 John 4:19).
